Ashley Madison infidelity site’s customer data stolen

Ashley Madison website

Customer data has been stolen from Ashley Madison, a dating website for married people who wish to cheat on their spouse.

The hackers said they had obtained information including “all the customers’ secret sexual fantasies and matching credit card transactions”.

The site’s operator confirmed there had been an “intrusion” but not its extent.

One security expert said a small percentage of the site’s user account data had been published online.

The hackers, who called themselves the Impact Team, said they had managed to steal the real names and addresses of the site’s users, including those who had previously paid to “delete” their accounts.

People could hide their profiles for free, but the website charged them $19 (£12) for a “full delete”.

The hackers said the service was a “complete lie” because some personal information was kept.

Security researcher Brian Krebs said the hackers had published a small percentage of user account data and planned to post more until the website closed.

‘Criminal intrusion’

Ashley Madison says it operates in more than 50 countries and has 37 million users, more than a million of whom live in the UK.

It promotes its service with the tagline, “Life is short, have an affair.”

The website is owned by Canada-based Avid Life Media.

Avid Life Media said in a statement: “We apologise for this unprovoked and criminal intrusion into our customers’ information.

“We have been able to secure our sites, and close the unauthorised access points.

“Any and all parties responsible for this act of cyber-terrorism will be held responsible.”

In May, casual dating website Adult Friend Finder was also hacked. Thousands of its customer records were leaked online.

Natarsha Belling’s phallic neckline causes an internet storm sensation

bellingIf you’re going to wear a green jacket, please don’t wear this!

It is a shame that nobody gave this advice Network Ten’s Eyewitness News anchor Natarsha Belling.

I do wonder if the ‘tenplay’ web address is a euphemism for something too. If you ‘eyewitness’ this news, I’m pretty sure you’re not going to unsee it!

Forget about the “Belling” name, there is almost a bell-end in this pic. now allows pornographic pictures, apparently (NSFW)

So, today I was browsing through DA and found a gallery who’s owner seems to have had a penchant of posting pictures of ladies bending over, so that their buttholes are wide open and other parts are on display.

Nudity has always been allowed on DA, and rightly so. Since the beginning of time people have been drawing pictures of nude men and ladies, making statues and when the camera was invented, nudity was at the top of the list.

Alongside nudity, there is something called pornography. Nudity in itself isn’t classed as porn, but porn usually involves nudity of some description and is intended on giving people sexual arousal. It is porn that is banned from DA, fortunately DA provides its users with a reporting tool.

Having used this tool to report a pornographic picture, I was presented with the following:

deviant art allows porn

Yes, Ladies and Gentlemen you read that correctly. DA does not consider this artistic masterpiece to be porn! Incidentally, theres 1000’s of pictures similar to this one!

Whilst DA has a ‘mature content’ filter, by our reckoning, there should also be a ‘porn’ filter.

Despite DA being turned into a porn gallery, we reckon there are much better places to visit should you want a community which you can ‘get off’ to.

Try these social networks: or a more fetish-orientated

For some artistic nudity (non-porn) on DA, try this:


Has fetlife popped its bubble?

Launched in 2008, fetlife describes itself as a community of kinksters by kinksters. By the end of 2012, the member count was over 1,700,000 users. Fuelled by those into the scene, those curious, and those that have read the 50 Shades trilogy. It certainly seems to be the place to be… or is it?

Claims about lack of safety and bullying on the network are rife. There are countless stories to be told. Moderators are known to have breached users privacy by sharing private email addresses of popular female members at fetlife gatherings. Some of this information was used to locate a person’s home.

Another occasion, a young lady in Belfast took to fetlife to share an unpleasant experience she had. She told how she had been assaulted on a night out. Instead of words of kindness from her ‘community’, she was told by fellow members that it was all her fault because she ‘smiled’. Read more of this story here:

If you’re new to the scene, you’re out of luck.
Other fine tales tell of younger folk with a genuine interest. When they join groups with the aim to learn more and further themselves they get told they are sluts, that they should not be on the site. On one occasion, a young looking girl was banned from the site within an hour of posting an introduction which then recieved in comments that belong in the domain of pedophilia. Instead of banning the commenters, the girl herself was banned.

Fetlife claims that their community is safe. However, this claim is false. In reality, no social network is safe. Most social networks take action based on cyber bullies whom are often banned. But, not on fetlife. Speak out about about the way you or others are treated and you will soon find yourself in trouble.
On Christmas day 2012 a frustrated fetlife user posted this open letter on fetlifes facebook wall:

All I want is peace, safety and the ability to trust you when I’m being a victim of Cyberbullying.

I don’t want enemies, I don’t want wannabe Kinksters and I definitely don’t fucking want psychotic serial killers running around on your website, making me feel unsafe about having a awesome and fun SSC kinky lifestyle that was supposed to promise awesome adventures in KinkLand…

Instead it’s become a breeding grounds of sorts for psychopathic predators.

John Baku, you are not fit to run FetLife if you continue to let Cyberbullying go on longer and you let it all go too far and it rots in Internet Hell.

So I started this:

You’re finished. Expect a subpoena soon.

Amy Draconian Lovecraft (Known as MurderedLove on FetLife)


Amy then followed this up with the following announcement the very next day:
‘I’m leaving today! Yay! I’ll be a proud member of CollarMe, Homemade BDSM, SlaveRegister, and BDSMFriendBook effective immediately today since FetLife’s just a baby wannabe Kinkster website who doesn’t care about real BDSM. If you wish to add me on my new profiles, hit me up. No more drama from the wannabe Kinksters, no more Cyberbullying torment from predatory assholes, no more serial killers, no more flakes who is obviously vanilla folks and no more bullshit! Yay!’
As of today, (28th Jan 2013) Fetlife have not commented on the facebook posts, yet suprisingly, they haven’t removed them either.
Amy isn’t the first to make such comments, others are leaving in droves. Fetlife’s community is no longer a kink one, the real kinksters are leaving for other alternatives. They are fearful of being tarnished by these countless tales. If fetlife doesnt change its ways soon, its bubble is going to pop.


What are the alternatives?
Amy mentioned the following “CollarMe, Homemade BDSM, SlaveRegister, and BDSMFriendBook” However, Amy missed another: (now rebranded as bdsmspace)

Maybe Amy hasn’t heard of it. Not suprising because kinkpeeps is probably one of the internets bestkept secrets. They have a very strict anti-bullying, anti-trolling policy. It also has a more social network feel to it and perhaps more feature-rich.

Edit: Since the original publication, fetlife claim to be investigating and clearing up the problems with greeters, pedophiliac comments and several other issues. It appears they are trying to correct some wrongs, but have they shot themselves in the openly admitting to allowing some pedophilia content? Not wanting to be tainted, I myself have removed my profile from the site and joined one of the newer up-comming sites.

Edit: Updated for clarity.

If you have had negative experiences with fetlife, or if you have another tale to tell, drop them in the comments below.

Update: We have been consistently getting reports that we said that, and we quote “Fetlife is sending people out to rape women”. To clear this up, I would like to state here and now that we never, ever, at any point stated nor implied this. That comment solely belongs to the person(s) who have been writing articles on other blogs and websites. Please direct all such comments to them sites.

The purpose of this article is to highlight problems that existed at the time of writing. No website or social network is immune and you should exercise caution when signing up, such as creating an email address specifically for a website and keeping it separate from your eBay, PayPal and Amazon and other accounts that may hold your personal name and home address.